Let me first start out by mentioning this article has been a resubmission of all the information contained in a former site of mine, that I've recently closed down due to unforeseen errors.
Overcoming World of Warcraft Addiction:
Everyday more and more people are becoming World of Warcraft addicts. I, like yourself, got into Warcraft a few years ago. In 2006, I was immersed and found myself making several real life decisions based on the infamous MMORPG.
With approximately 11 million subscribers and rising, one can only imagine how many others have found themselves morphing into a World of Warcraft addict. A portion of them may be completely unaware, absorbed by the game, while others may know they have a problem but have no real solutions for combating it. Or rather, if they do and when they try, find themselves in a pool of darkness, afraid of the real world outside and what they’re supposed to do now. After all, it’s quite easy to let ten hours go by or even days playing the game because there really is a ton of little things to do. The problem is what happens when we’re left with one giant empty time-slot that nothing else seems capable of fulfilling? Pretty much anything and everything can seem very inadequate to Warcraft in comparison during the beginning of the quitting process.
Do you have a world of warcraft addiction?
There’s no question that most of you are probably in denial. You’re probably saying things like:
* If I wasn’t playing World of Warcraft, I’d be watching tv or doing something equally "meaningless".
* Hey, at least I’m not out there doing drugs.
* I only raid a few days a week, so it’s okay.
But here are the questions that you really need to answer:
* How many hours are you playing daily?
* Have you ever played for days minus sleep?
* What’s your in game played time?
* Am I playing Warcraft immediately after arriving from home|work?
* Do you find yourself getting angry at anyone that interrupts you during gameplay?
* If you have lashed out often at family|friends, what is it they requested from you during that time that made you so angry?
* Have you often fantasized about how great it would be if your family|friends didn’t exist, so you could play freely?
* Have you spent real money on WoW gold, accounts or anything similar?
* Do you spend Tuesdays counting down till the Warcraft servers are back up again? Or try to get most things done during those hours?
* Have you found yourself making real life decisions around raid times?
* Do you often refuse to engage in events because it conflicts with guild raid times or events?
* Have you found yourself constantly dreaming about World of Warcraft?
* Are you capable of going days, weeks or months without playing World of Warcraft and be okay with it?
* If you have a family, how often do you spend time with them?
Simply write down the answers to the questions and reading them over. And don’t lie, what’s the point? Chances are if you're here or in a similar site, you're a Warcraft addict or someone that knows one and needs and/or wants some sort of assistance or guidance.
I don’t need to tell you what the “correct” answers are that classify you as an World of Warcraft addict. The important thing is to get these questions in your head, alongside the true answers. You know that if you can recall a few scenarios in which you lashed out at family or friends for daring to interrupt your game time, that you need to take a step back and remember it is just a game.
Speak Your Mind
The stories involving World of Warcraft addictions are all over the internet. If you found this site, chances are you found a few other sites. One for instance, WoWDetox.com includes thousands of stories similar to yours where people ask daily for assistance with their gaming habits or talk about how they overcame them. Everyday more people add to the ever-growing list of tales involving World of Warcraft addiction. On some instances, it may be a different game, say Final Fantasy, Everquest, Second Life or Warhammer Online that has you or someone you know hooked. If that’s you or you wish to share your story regarding a family member or friend stuck in another world, then by all means don’t feel limited by World of Warcraft. While, that has been my personal focus, you’re welcome to complain or post about whichever video game addiction you have.
My personal opinion is that World of Warcraft is the most captivating and time consuming game I’ve ever encountered. I’ve been engaged in video games since the tender age of five, but this is the first and only that I’ve dedicated as much time as I have to and stopped something real in favor of the fictional world. It's difficult to remain casual in WoW. It's definitely made to take time and a lot of dedication. Something as simple as leveling herbalism, mining, or any of the other professions can span over days. It’s simple to become embedded in the fictional characters you can create. They tend to become a recreation of yourself and provide the feeling of success where you yourself may have experienced nothing but constant failures.
Combating World of Warcraft Addiction
Like anything else, for most, combating a World of Warcraft addiction will be far from easy. Many have likened it to be worse than quitting smoking or drinking. There’s a chance that a majority of your “friends” over time have come from the game itself. You’re going to miss talking to them and may even feel as if you’re abandoning them if you quit the game. You may also find that you need to keep logging on simply to maintain the friendship. But think about it...how much can that person or group of people truly care about you if they have no interest in you outside the game? Sadly, there are plenty out there who will love you, laugh with you and once you simply miss a raid or two for whatever reason, those same people will look at you in a different light. Suddenly you don’t provide them with the real game assistance they need as you are unstable and well, they don’t really want to know how you are doing, they want to know if you’ll be available from here on out or simply replace you with someone new that can.
I found myself logging on to one particular server with my first guild. After leaving after some “drama” post Burning Crusade, I would go to that server weekly and check up on them, ask questions and such. And guess what? Not one single time in the entire year I kept doing so, have any of them done the same. I would even send private messages through the guild site. If I could go back in time, I’d undo all of that. I cared way more than I should have. That’s not to say it isn’t possible to meet a real friend on this game or any other...it can happen. All I can stress is don’t put anyone else in WoW before you or your family's need. More than not they’re simply using you for their own benefit. Anyone who can’t understand your other priorities, doesn’t deserve any of your time or attention.
I don't want to be a world of warcraft addict, how do I get out?
There are a few options on what you can do to get out from under the Warcraft drug if that is what you truly want to do. I personally just cancelled my account, but for others, some far more drastic measures may need to be taken to make relapse less likely.
* CANCEL the account. You’re done playing it, so why still pay for it?
* Completely uninstall WoW from your computer. Once again, if you’re done playing it, there’s no need to have it remain on your desktop. You’re just increasing the chances of falling into the same trap.
* Break the CDs. I still have mine somewhere, but if you need to get rid of all the evidence, let the smashing begin!
* Give your WoW account to a friend and ask them to change the password. You can also just randomly smash the keyboard for the password and will most likely never be able to recall it again.
* Delete characters. Note that even by deleting them, they still exist somewhere in Blizzard’s giant world. They can recover your account for you and pretty much every thing can be retrieved, but it slows down the process and increases the likelihood that you won’t bother going through the trouble.
* Get your account banned. I, personally, would not do this. I think it shows more control if you can quit without having to go to the extreme. However, if you really feel you have no way out otherwise, consider this method. There are many ways to go about it, spam tradechat, excess profanity...get enough people to report you and you'll most likely be well on your way to a permanent ban.
I Have So Much Free Time & Nothing To Do With It!
That’s just all in your head. I can say that with confidence because it was in mine. All of a sudden I had giant blocks of time and a strong feeling of anxiety surfaced from that alone. But it was not time to back down. Within a week it became hard to imagine that I had given up so much time almost daily for that game. It was incredibly liberating being able to choose what I wanted to do. I had shows I could watch, other games I could pick up on the fly, even something as simple as being able to eat whenever I wanted...you raiding folk know how it is. Most of you probably cram food before a raid, eating as fast as you can, if at all. Everytime I think back, I can't just help shaking my head at the little things that were given up.
So think about what you were doing before World of Warcraft. Withdrawal isn’t going to be easy, but just stick with it and soon enough you might even laugh at the whole ordeal like I did. There are plenty of people, things and events waiting in line to distract you. Here are some ideas to help you along the way:
* Take up an instrument, any instrument.
* Learn some form of fighting such as karate, kickboxing, grappling.
* Take yoga, tai chi or pilates to help with stress.
* Read a book. If there’s an author you loved some time ago, check to see if they have any new books available.
* Take a course. Is there something you ever wanted to learn? Doesn’t always have to be a paid class but get some books, online information and such, regarding the topic. Some ideas for topics can be cooking, dancing, creating digital characters, etc.
* Walk around outside for at least 15 minutes. Jog or run if you’re ambitious.
* Find a part-time or full-time job if you don’t already have one.
* Rent a movie or watch one playing on TV. Or go to the movie theatre. There's always anime to catch up to, if that's your cup of tea.
* Socialize with friends on the phone, aim or in person without mentioning World of Warcraft.
* Stick to games with an ending! Or at the very least, ones that can be paused to attend to other matters that may come up.
* Travel and see the world! Okay this may not be for everyone but if you’re able, why not? Go somewhere new and exotic, bring a friend if possible and just relax.
Sure there are plenty of other things to add, but the rest is for you to figure out in time. That will come once you realize how great free time actually is. How freeing it is to not sit on the chair and listen to teenage boys and girls (some are older too, I know) and hear them bicker about nonsense and laugh at the most unfunny things. Key is to start small and use the new time to do small and simple things. And just to note, if you're a gamer and never intend on quitting video games altogether, that's fine. I've been one for a long time myself and will continue to be one for life. It will always be my favorite hobby. I'll just never let one change who I am and what I do the way Warcraft once did.
I myself am just starting to consider leaving wow altogether.
I read something once on another site about wow, a year or so ago and it has stuck in my mind ever since – “Do you really like something, if you love playing it for hours on end, but you loathe the time it takes away from you?”
It’s a strong thing to consider. Because when I play the game I love it and I don’t want to stop. But when I’m not playing it, I hate that I’m tired at work, I am disgusted at how messy my house is because I don’t have time to clean and I am disgusted at how fat I have become because I cook quick fatty meals to cram in raid times and I don’t exercise anywhere near as much as I used to. I’ve been slowly killing my real life friendships by not attending as many social events as I used to. They all probably know why to.
And all this for what? A game? But I am a gamer. I love games. My uncle bought me an Atari 2600 back in the mid 80s. I started out with Pacman, Space invaders and Asteroids. I graduated through many different pc’s and consoles since.
But nothing is like this game. I have spent months on a few games before, playing hours a week. Games like Sim City 2K, Diablo 2 and Halo 1 & 2. They all took chunks of my time (ie LIFE) away. But this game ... this game has taken years with hours every day.
This game dangles so many carrots in front of you. And you can switch to another one once you are bored with the first. You can gain achievements when real life offers failure. You can have a Guild and complete tasks together, when your real life friends can let you down and not really do anything of any importance. You can learn skills when you don’t have the patience and time to learn real life skills. The list goes on.
And then there is the gear. And this is what has made me realise how much I loathe the time I spend most of all. For the last year I have been raiding and pvp-ing alot. We down the hard fights and get the high end pvp ranks. I have the best gear.
But, the gear doesn’t end. As Iv’e learnt about item levels and Gearscore, things don’t stop. There will be another patch and then another expansion. And the gear I have now; the gear I have spent hours each day to gain will become worthless.
The chest peice I got for letting down my friends is already loosing its luster. And the legs I got for missing my cousins engagement party will need to be replaced with another drop.
There is no value in this.
I completely understand. All games hold carrots, most carrots are obtainable in a reasonable amount of time, Warcraft's is ongoing. For someone who has to have all the best items, make sure to have flasks, consumables, etc for everyone..this person might find themselves in your situation. The situation where you dread playing but you feel you have to because you have a game obligation. The obligation seems to override all real life events and people, and you just can't let the guildies down. Sometimes I think there can be a fear of losing a spot or becoming less respected if you'd miss a single raid. I was actually that way once and I still smack myself for it. Could also be the fact that as you mentioned, you can become more accomplished in the game than in the real world and it's hard to let go of.
I loved the game but loathed getting on to the raid after awhile (during BC era). This was because I knew that from 8:30PM - 12:00AM, any shows, movies, events, anything I wanted to do just had to be avoided. It took me way too long but I snapped out of the "guild obligations/must be the best mentality" and just randomly transferred off the server I was on. Every single character transferred. Ever since that day, I have not been in a single guild but my own (just for extra bank space for me and my partner). I could never touch one of those raiding guilds again. My time is completely mine because I have no specific time table I'm trying to work around with raids. Instead I'll raid when I get a chance to over the weekend. I can farm whenever I want or I can log off and watch some of my movies, show, wander around, etc. Its made the game so much more enjoyable to abandon guilds and that competitive environment.
But you might need guilds to enjoy the game so at that point I would suggest realizing that everything comes before the guild. Everything. You'd be surprised how quickly those people will forget you. Even having met my partner over Warcraft, with the bat of an eye, I believe the majority would easily sacrifice any so called friendship to join a better guild, get that extra shiny legendary, or call you the enemy if you happened to cause a wipe or two..yada yada. A shame really.
If it helps any, maybe start by limiting your weekly time. Make sure you see your friends at least once a week or every two weeks even if it's on a raid day. Tell your guildlings you have priorities..if they can't understand, new guild in my opinion. One that's more flexible or at least has as few raid days as possible and would give you time to sleep! Either way, you'd have to learn to exercise that control...which is still hard for me! I get very obsessive but I made myself work everyday on designing web templates till at least 6PM. Afterward I could do whatever I wanted as a reward for making sure I don't distract myself too much.
Anyway I ranted on to death, hope I didn't send you to sleep. A bit all over the place but I hope I was of some assistance and that you have luck getting your life back in order while still enjoying the gaming world. I'm sure you know what you have to do, just the drudgery over having to get there. Take some time off from the game and while I think you might end up playing again, you'll most likely come back to the game with a different attitude and be able to manage your time/priorities better.
well iv been trying to quit for 6-7months. and i have mostly succeded. I have played the game into that time on a handfull of occasions but not to any great extent and not to the point where it has affected any irl stuff.
The problem for me is this.. I was the guild master of a high end raiding guild. I quit my job, lost my girlfriend, had nothing much left irl so this was a very difficult thing. i think we are all here obv because we do love the game as we wouldnt be addicted otherwise.i certainly do. love my char, my guild, the people i played with. the reasons i managed to get my foot out the door at first wer simple.
maybe others can relate to this
1. after running a raiding guild for 5years the stress finally got to me. it came to be that i was no longer looking forward to logging in but resenting it. always a problem, always a mllion questions, people for example 'suggesting' where we should raid on a certain night. its posted im GM raid as a team..a GM may understand this well.
2. I was playing sometimes 16-20hours per day as a consequence i lost my girlfriend at the time. a while after that i started to miss having a girlfriend, some1 to talk to other than about wow, sum1 to have sex with etc..
3. I had nothing IRL..no money,no girl,hadnt spoken to friends irl for a long time, no job .
so what did i do?
well off the bat i stopped playing wow( just logged off and didnt go back in for atleast 3 months atall..luckily for me i found a girl stupid enough to date me..although at the time she knew nothing about my addiction for wow. I found myself a job( just working in a shop but its money.) I started to chat again with old friends i had outside of wow( 1 of them also a former wow player) I also got myself a nice car and took my girlfriend on holiday.
i managed to do all this..and in 6-7months iv logged into wow a handfull of times, sometimes i felt glad i was no longer playing full time and logged off after a matter of minutes.. other times i felt an old flame come back. but the point is..either way i managed to stop playing after a reasonable period of time and then not play again for weeks/months.
i hope this information will help any1 looking to quit but i would also like any1 to give me some advise and thier opinions because i have not yet explained my problem.
its getting long so ill cut it short but i think this is it,
i admit i do get easily addicted to things. im also very competitive so the idea of a challenge greatly appeals to me.
for the first 3motnhs after i quit it was fine..i felt relief more than anything else but now that has changed. I now feel the need to return, the need to raid and help my guild. the need to chat with my friends online and grind and farm as i used to. Its not jst that i feel the need, the problem is i dream about it, and i think about it all the time. i cant get it out of my head.. now i love my gf but even when im with her alot of the time i spend thinking of wow.i must admit in some cases iv even tryed to get her to fall out with me so i could go back to playing it without any annoyance. i dont really like my job a whole lot..but its actually not bad it has good pple etc i just cant seem to get the feeling from real life that i got from wow.. that feeling of achiving something great and i think thats what i need.
thanks to creator of site, and any advice
Well I figured I should move this from a reply to the top, to properly respond to you =)
This one is a toughie and I'd sadly have to go with avoiding Warcraft. Unfortunately, it seems like your addictive personality makes it difficult to play it as just a game and you instead merge it with your life, letting it take over. On one end someone may want to say, well it's your life, do whatever makes you happy and if that's warcraft then go for it (which is usually my opinion). But I have the feeling that if you made that decision you'd end up missing the real world once again, your new ex-girlfriend (which will probably happen) and thereafter quit WoW for some time again.
Unless you know when to stop and when not to sacrifice other things like jobs, friends, family, etc for the game, going back to it wouldn't be the best choice. I haven't been able to find a game since I started Warcraft that I enjoyed as much, but I do make sure not to let it interfere with things that need to get done and I still maintain my relationships because I wish to (not because I have to lol).
So anyway, if you're going to play...limit your time and make time for everything else in your life. Do not plan work/gf around raid times please! Anyway, hopefully I offered some sound advice, although I know that you may be aware of what you should do and just need more confirmation from others. Cheers =)
I saw a story on Kotaku.com the other day about a clinic treating WoW addicts and that triggered my curiousity again about this "addiction" As I read these stories It sparked my memory of an old friend of mine...
I used to play a loong time ago...(at least 2 years ago I think) around about the time The Burning Crusade was released. I was a long time RPG fan but i had never ventured into the realm of online online RPG's before before. My friend wanted to try the game together with me so we bought our games and started together in the Horde as two elves (I was a priest) and he chose to become a warlock.
We attended the same university and met during our first year doing the same course but we both went down very different paths...after about a couple of months I had only just hit level 40 and obtained shadow form but he was already raiding and level 70. He kept remarking at how slow I was and that I should be raiding by now and I should focus on leveling and he became awfully competitive asking me why i wasnt level 70 yet....and pressuring me to level faster which I didnt like at all. His attitude to me also changed. I know this just echoes previous stories but we'd see less and less of eachother, at school and within the game...often to the point where he would no longer reply to my /whispers anymore...at some point i think i just stopped playing and moved on. At the time I was making new friends at uni and life was getting busy as I was preparing to go for a study year abroad... Last I heard was that he no longer went to uni. I completed my thesis and graduated last year and he was not with us so it does make me wonder what happened to him...did he become so addicted to the point he left uni? I wonder sometimes...
I dont think I made quite the same connection he did. Neither of us were *that* different to be honest. We both loved video games and neither of us were by any means anti-social. We actually connected over our fandom over Final Fantasy!
So I hope that you are able to help people if they are addicted to the point where they lose sight of all else...kudos to you
Sadly, it sounds like he might have fallen into the uni dropout category. You knew what your priorities were but seems like he let his competitive desires in game overcome everything else.
I can relate because when I was also raiding a long time ago, the competitive nature is what drew me in. I liked being the "best" dps'er of the entire guild and it gave a sense of being needed...which could be something his guild or in-game people were giving him. At that point, he'd rather abandon everything else than disappoint them and lose his place/status in game. I guess that is why he talked to you less and less...you were now a "lowbie" and one of casual people that didn't seem to take it as seriously so he didn't want to associate with you anymore. It's a weird superiority, ego-trip thing.
Either way, I'm glad to hear you were able to finish Uni and continue on with life without the game bearing such a burden, like it has for so many others. More like kudos to you! =)
Just recently I discovered this site and a few others concerning WoW addiction. I am getting married this month and have finally realized I'm caught in an in-game cycle that may never end, unless done so forcibly. I often would abandon previously made plans (works, dates, etc) in order to raid and do the countless other things in the game. I never saw it as a big deal until now. A friend of mine (coincidentally one of my groomsmen) has not had a job in almost a year (living at home with his mom) and is not looking for one, has lost his gf, and will only hang out with friends in-game. He missed my bachelor party last week; this is what woke ME up to MY OWN addiction.
Since then I have cancelled my account and am about to sell it. I will be uninstalling the game today and like the Webmaster said in a different post: "Start playing games with endings." That being said, I am really concerned about my friend. Seriously, I love this guy--no homo of course. I'm afraid that his tendency to disconnect from his family, friends, and everything non-virtual will result in his demise. I do not want to see him looking back and living in regret.
So I'm posting for 2 reasons: One, to thank the creator of this site for helping to open my eyes and finalize the severance of WoW from my life; and Two, to get advice on how to help/confront my friend in the most loving way possible.
a little more info on him: I'm certain he will not like me using "[his name]", "WoW", and "addicted" in the same sentence. He may not ever talk to me again, no joke. But I'm willing to trade our friendship for the assurance that he will make something of his life.
Thanks ahead of time for all the help!!!!!!!!!
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Come on, ya kiddies know you want to. Feed the addiction, it hungers it calls you.. no seriously its just a fucking game.
I'm a full time student and Deans List recipient to boot. (That means i get nothing but A's)
However, all I do is play WoW - I even let my relationship dissolve around video games (not just W0W) - And in the end it was for the better as she was nothing more then a stupid fat whiny bitch - In a way game saved my ass from her.
I'm not working, nor am I LFW, but that is the nice thing as a Student, no need for a Job right now - Everything paid for, I go out to the movies every now and then, drink, fuck and you guess it go home and play WoW
Why? Because its better then 90% of the fucking shit you deal with in the RW and at least in WoW you can ignore the dickheads.
Haha yes it is just a game. But depending on the person playing it, if they're normally an addict to one thing or another, Warcraft will suck them in just the same. Some people end up doing too much damage because they just can't away, sadly. Hell, I know if I could, I would play all day and feel great about it...but alas the quest for cash doesn't allow that.
I still play the game myself, but I also maintain my web template design work, some random self teaching here and there, a few fav shows and some good ol' shopping. I usually play after 6-7PM Monday through Fridays and almost all day on the weekends if me and my partner aren't going out anywhere. I've been a gamer since very young and cancelling out Warcraft would just bring in other games in my life instead. I enjoy playing video games far too much to give them up for anyone because they think it's a "waste of life". I'm having fun, manage to keep my brain in learning mode, have a job, etc...so I don't need any toadmonkeys to define the life I should be having. So I agree with you there.
I can see where my post and the above opinion conflict, though. While I don't think I've fully clarified the post since I originally wrote it, it's more or less directed to people who are normally easily addicted to things. The people that can't live without six cups of coffee, drugs, etc or the overly competitive who must win at everything and end up taking the game way too seriously. Sometimes it seems like some become so obsessive, raiding, farming and such, takes priority over family, friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, work, money, yada yada. From reading a bunch of wowdetox stories alone, it doesn't seem like most of them realize it until after they've lost the people they've ignored. I think they've lost the balance and do need a little assistance in realizing that because of the way this real world works, they may need to learn how to cut back on game time just enough to get the rest of their life in order.
Anyway I hope that babble made some sense. It's early morning here!
He needs a good wake up call for certain. The game is fun and can easily be played for hours and although that can be said about many games, this MMO goes further in that days can be spent on farming, gearing alts, getting mats, competing in raids, etc...while those games with endings are an easy pause or level clear, stop and do something else for awhile. Since Warcraft can feel like a living, breathing world (like any MMO most likely), it can be harder to put down without being able to hit that wonderful pause button.
Unfortunately, for your friend, he seems embedded in the game to the point where other people stopped mattering to him and are more of a nuisance than anything. While I understand being addicted and wanting to play for hours, I can't quite comprehend losing all care for family and friends and abandoning them for a raid that you just have to go to or because you must farm, etc. That can be damaging!
I believe you when you say he may not talk to you again. I am curious as to whether you outright asked him why he didn't go to your bachelor party or why he doesn't spend any time whatsoever with friends and family, assuming he has in the past. If you have, what has his response been? Have you ever flat out said you don't appreciate him putting the game over you? If so, what did he respond?
On the one hand you have a grown man, who should have some common sense and be able to play a lot, but still make something of himself and make time for friends and family. Otherwise I am inclined to side on him needing a harsh reality check where he can't access the account temporarily to attend to all the things he's been avoiding. But it's not as simple to take the gaming privileges away when it's an adult who should know better. Obviously hard to know without trying. But I'd definitely side with talking, forcing that communication, first and see what kind of response you get, if any.
Situation is a tough call, and as I am no psychiatrist or doc, I can't really say what a sure method or the best method would be. I can only say what I would do as another person. After I've tried the talking, I'd honestly let them be and hope that time and silence from family and friends they used to appreciate, will wake them up once again.
If it also help any, http://www.wowdetox.com/ has a ton of stories from thousands of people with problems, people that have seen the light and such. Him reading some of those stories might make him realize he's reading about himself and help a bit. It has for some people.
I appreciate the advice. it confirmed a lot of what I was thinking I should do. As far as confrontation goes, I have not directly confronted him about anything yet. I'll be getting married in 5 days, so once the hoop-la is over, the talk with him will be bumped to the top of the list.
My plan, as of now, is to sit him down and ask him why he couldn't make it to the party. I'm certain he will give me some excuse about how he was not feeling well. Then I'll slowly turn the conversation towards why I have decided to quit playing WoW for good (he does not know this yet). Then I'll let him know how much I want him to succeed in his life, and that it will be near impossible for him to do so unless he gives his love for WoW the boot. Then we will see where it goes from there.
My prayer is that I can motivate him like all the horror stories I read motivated me. I'll do my best to keep the updates coming, but hopefully he will be the one doing the updating. Again, God bless all of you for helping us to kick this addiction.
Ah yeah..much better to wait until the madness is over. Glad to hear you'll start with confrontation. Hopefully a piece of his normal self is retained in that body. While it may sound funny to others, the transformation people can go through with World of Warcraft (and other MMO or time consuming game, although Warcraft seems to have the stronger impact) is fascinating and you almost always can't recognize who the person is anymore.
I still love the game and all but I found that the only way for me not to become a serious addict or obsessive (I get addicted to things easily sometimes, especially games) was to avoid any guild of any kind and just have my own that is more of a bank for myself and my mantoy. I've seen people put the priority of the guild over children, friends and events, and the guilt they feel if they do avoid the raid and attend to friends, family, etc. You would think it would be the other way around.
If he is one of those competitive people and gets addicted to things whether it's drugs, alcohol, games or anything else, the need to keep up and farm for alts gear and mains gear, do this raid to get the best gear can drive up that competitive fire. Even happens despite the game becoming increasingly "casual friendly". What I think happens, is that it's so simple to get good gear and be able to catch up to end game, that you end up playing quick catchup with the many alts as I already mentioned. You then get the competitive fire with all characters and are suddenly doing every raid available with three different toons (or more even).
Anyway I'm babbling, so much luck to you and if you ever come back here, hope to hear how it went!
I'm new to wow, I've been playing for about 4 months now. And it's pretty addictive.
I've been a gamer my whole life, xbox 360, ps2, Snes, Nes, I played all those consoles, and I've spent many hours playing video games. Wow for me is no different than those video games. Yes, is very inmersive, is very well designed, and yes is very complex and addictive, but hey.... what's the matter? is just a video game.
Several rules of thumbs here:
1st. first of all you need to understand, that a game is just a hobbie, something that you do during your free time, you must enjoy your hobbie, but you CAN'T be obssessed with it.
2nd. You MUST have several hobbies, I personally practice jiu jitsu, I enjoy jogging, lifting weights, and spending time with my GF, I don't replace them for Wow, all my hobbies have specifc tasks/time and for me Wow is just entertainment. That's it, it's not a religion.
3rd. You MUST accept that you can't be the best at Wow, that's a fact, you have a life, you can play and have fun with Wow, you can enjoy the time you spend with your guild and online friends, but you can't be the best at PVPing, Raids. To do that you will have to spend lots of hours of your real life, let that task to the addicts that don't have a REAL life like you.
4rd. It's all about balance, keep equilibrium in your life. You should dedicate time to yourself, your job, your health, your friends, and wow. Trust me, in the long run, your real life should be as attractive as your Wow life, its all about balance.
Hope it helps.